Welcome to Week 24 of the Authenticity@Work Leadership Tool-kit! My intention for this series is to share a quick tool each week to help you lead with more authenticity, adaptability and inspiration so we can together create workplaces where we bring the best of ourselves and inspire others. So grab a journal and an accountability partner to make these practices even more powerful for you!
In last week’s post we discussed letting go of limiting beliefs in favor of experiencing the whole of who we are. Did you find limiting beliefs that keep you stuck and see more empowering ways to look at those situations?
How do judgments such as our anger or disdain for others affect our authenticity?
If authenticity is about choosing to be the person we want to be in a given moment, our almost visceral reactions prevent us from having that choice. Our emotions can undermine our ability to fully hear and respond in a rational way.
Anger and hostility cause stress hormones and speed up our heart rate and breathing. Blood pressure rises, and blood flows away from our rational, thinking brains. Anger causes higher levels of glucose in the blood.
Consider the following wisdom from the Buddha: You’re not punished for your anger; you’re punished by your anger.
Anger is a very human emotion, and as such, there is nothing wrong with it. Emotion is simply energy; it’s neither positive nor negative. Energy, by its very nature, needs to be processed, and as it is processed, it transforms. It is harmful when it gets trapped inside us in the form of grudges that we hold on to.
Once we are able to fully experience and stay in the moment with that energy, we notice that it moves and can dissipate. What’s left is our centered self. The trouble happens when that energy is not released. Holding a grudge keeps us off balance and unable to be authentic and at choice in working with others.
This Week’s Tool:
Bring to mind someone you dislike. Put two chairs facing each other. Pretend that the person you dislike is on one of the chairs. Say out loud to the pretend person what irritates you most about him or her. Don’t censor anything. Then bring in your inner appreciator ally and thank yourself for having the courage to speak up. Thank the other imaginary person for listening. Journal about the impact of this exercise.